- Physical Support
- Ego Support
- Social Comparison
- Intimacy and Affection
Adolescence is often where you find out who your true friends are and teach you the skills to select future friends.
Oh how the dating world has changed since the 1950s and 60s. It was a far more formal procedure known as courting where the intention of looking for a mate was ultimately for marriage, babies and a lifelong bond. Now dating is so much more complex including the online dating medium. With ‘walls’ such as the internet in place, often people can sell themselves to others as something or someone who they are in reality. At least back then, although it was rigid it seemed to be a far less complicated process. Overall as pointed out in Santrock (2010) there are 8 functions of dating today (including my interpretations of each reference adolescence):
- Recreation (playing the field)
- Source of status and achievement (thoughts such as women or men who go after partners for their money or social status)
- Part of a socialisation process (a way of getting to know the opposite sex)
- Learning about intimacy (experimenting with feelings)
- Sexual experimentation and exploration (self explanatory!)
- Companionship (what spring to mind is experimenting and/or finding someone with the same interests/values as you)
- Identity formation and development (the way you see yourself as an individual and also as part of a relationship)
- A means of mate sorting and selection (finding someone to spend the rest of your life with, note: all of the above are entwined in this one)
Personally, when I was an adolescent my first boyfriend actually ended up being one of my best friends and I confused my feelings for something else. After a number of short term relationships, I have found someone who shares the same values as me which I believe is the most important thing in a relationship. Also, it appears that many people in relationships now place a lot of pressure on each other and the relationship (based on what they see in the media). In our relationship, we accept that we will have lulls and highs but know that this is normal.
What are your thoughts on today’s relationships/dating scene??
Thought this was a really interesting view on depression. I see where it’s coming from. What are your thoughts?
I like this picture and understand this idea. Those who experience anger generally direct it either towards someone or something, this usually lasts a short period and is expressed either physically or verbally. Depression seems to be expressed in a continuous state with less bursts.